Author: George Agafiței, Strategy Designer & Innovation Catalyst, Certified Associate Emergenetics®
Coaching - one of the most unpredictable trades in the world. Coaching - one of the “riskiest” jobs in the world for both the coach and the coachee. Coaching - one of the most fulfilling activities in the world.
I was speaking in the first part of this article about the need for clarity in deciding whether you want such a mission, and if the answer is yes, you need clarity in understanding the payer company) and coachee.
I have something else to say about the first part, because I was at first naive to accept without any effort to take over the assignment. Understanding came with experience. Sometimes behind this request is hidden their top executives’ own helplessness accompanied by the pride of the final decision-maker. It's hard to accept that he cannot or does not know. And one wants to escape quickly.
It happened, however, at least once that the decision maker needed the coach's determination to stay with the decision-maker in this process of finding solutions. The question that opened this window of opportunity was:
After the usual blame games, I give a little help:
Quiet. There was a lot of quiet in the office, only the noise of the street beyond the big windows is heard. Slightly hoarse, like,
What was I witnessing? How the final decision maker builds bridges. And he followed:
We broke up hitting success. There was no need for coaching services. The final decree took the step and regained a very good and valuable colleague. It does not happen all the time.
About quietness - it is so important to know how to keep your mouth shut when the one in front tries to get out of its own traps or just builds a solution. Peter Szabo, my career initiator, on one of my learning trips, told me:
Quietness is one of the most powerful techniques in coaching. It creates space, leaves room for clarification.
Now, after reviewing these things, you need to determine if you're working with your coach alone, and together with the decision maker you build a coaching relationship in three.
The last option is my favorite, because the ones directly involved and interested in the success of the program relate to what is happening. There are 3 important moments in which you come across this formula:
This type of interaction has a great impact on all parties involved and is one of the important professional a-ha. It's not easy, but it's worth it.
Another important element of the process is the three challenges that arise throughout the program. They are the result of observing and reflecting on what happens to coachee during coaching. The three challenges are:
Here we are at the end of this article in two parts. I hope it was useful, especially because we understand that we do not really "repair", especially if the coachee does not want it. This journey is full of lessons. Some decision-makers even recognize this: they have learned new things about coaches and learned new things about them. That's why coaching is so full of fulfillment. Made with respect for the people, you like to enjoy more and more what you do.
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About the author
George Agafiţei has over 20 years of experience in supporting the development of people's potential, initially as an employee in large companies (BRD, ProTV, Arthur Andersen) and then, since 2006, on his own as a freelancer. George has a formal education in psychology and business management, with a focus on leadership development and business models. In addition, he has trained various training courses in Romania, Switzerland and the Netherlands. He is accredited to use the Emergenetics® profile and DiG business simulation (Discovery / Innovation / Growth).
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